Just a few years ago, I sat down to a meal with a brilliant former student who is now a cardiologist.
After he talked about my American Literature class at length, I said to him, “You do realize that when I taught you back then, I was much younger than you are now. ” It was a light bulb moment for me, because I immediately understood that this former student wasn’t seeing me in the present tense through the eyes of the successful thirty-something doctor he is, but would eternally see a mid-twenties version of me through the eyes of the hopeful sixteen-year-old kid he once was.
I’ve come to believe that having a drink with your former high school teacher is – more often than not – a bit of a trap.
My students initially fantasized about consuming alcohol with me because they wanted to be treated like adults when they were only teenagers.
Hooker was arrested after another former student of his came forward to say she had a sexual relationship with him in 1998, when she was 17 years old, police said.
However, you should be prepared for those in your department to find out that you are dating a former student, which could create a certain amount of push back.
The professor-student relationship does not end when the course ends, and indeed might not end a year later.
Professors are asked to write letters of recommendation for former students.
A former student struts triumphantly over to me, all but screaming out the fact that he or she has finally reached the legal drinking age. Sometimes former students contact me, specifically to schedule the promised drink.
And then, after just one sip, the magic fizzles out.