I’m interested to know, have you ever dated someone with the same name as your ex? Family names (also known as surnames) provide an obvious clue to a person’s origin.The rules are basically the same for teens, the middle aged and seniors, first date or last date, girls or guys Primary rule – girls and guys, treat your date with dignity and respect; this applies to online dating as well Don’t know what dignity and respect are? Broaden your vocabulary beyond a few repetitive expletives No drunkenness.Being stoned or wasted only gets a laugh from your yobbo mates at your expense Act like a lady or gentleman. It must come from the heart Be that way during your first date right until your last and see what a difference it will make to you, your date's and your life Do not expect your prospect to be available for a date at short notice Ask a few days in advance of the proposed date Set a meeting time and if possible an ending time If the person cannot or will not be available for a date at the second request – they are not interested Don’t push the issue.Names can affect a person’s psyche and memories associated with names can become a burden on some.A few months ago I wrote about Matty Healy as my #MCM and in that entry I noted, “…I would have told you that he’s a troll and I don’t trust anyone named Matthew.If it happens it happens If not it’s probably too soon Avoid sharing confidences.It puts your date in an awkward position Guys, see her to her door after the date It’s for her safety A friendly hug in greeting or to say good bye may be OK or perhaps a kiss on the cheek.
While it’s very clear this project was total BS and had no psychological research behind it, we did have a point.When I asked her about it, she shared with me that it didn’t bother her too much seeing as how the two guys had completely different personalities. Obviously a person is not only their name and they have additional attributes. Or what if your new boyfriend said something that reminded you of your old, would you feel like you’re dating the same person all over again?However, what if you went to a restaurant with your new boyfriend that you went to with your old? To dig further into this topic, I did some research on women dating someone with the same name as their ex.Two people can share a surname and have no biological relationship to each other.Common surnames, such as Smith and Jones, can have multiple independent founders.As well, adoptions, misspellings, name changes (sometimes used to hide a criminal or immigration past) and non-paternities (the husband is not the biological father of the child) all serve to confuse the picture.In Britain, surnames have been in existence for only about 700 years.As a final project, we were asked to divide ourselves into groups and do a study on the social psychology of something.I’m not sure how my group landed on the social psychology of names, but we took the project with zero seriousness and turned it into something fun.The results were minimal but I did find a article that talked about the significance of a name.The article noted “…whether we admit it or not, when we see a name we draw conclusions about a variety of characteristics, including demographics like race.” Therefore, perhaps this specific topic hasn’t been tackled before because of the fact that when we meet someone with the same name as an ex, we internally decide to move on and not attempt to follow through.