But what good is sending a message if you can’t even get an initial response? We’re sharing 7 online dating message tips that will actually get you somewhere. You’ll want your first impression to do just that—make an impression. Statistics show that the 3 most popular ways to greet someone in an online dating message were actually bad beginnings.
Since the goal of your first message is to continue the convo, leave the receiver wanting more (as opposed to already knowing too much)! While some people make the mistake of leading with a long list of questions on a range of topics, it’s best to just pick one detail you think is cool or something you’re curious about and stick with it to start. Messaging someone more than once without getting a reply is the quickest turn-off you can try.
No traditional greeting at least earns the reply rate of 27%.
Overall, more informal standard greetings did very well.
So, instead of messaging someone that they are “gorgeous,” mention the words “awesome,” “fascinating,” or “cool,” if you want to give a compliment. If you’re hopelessly messaging and not really looking for a response (which likely isn’t you if you’re reading this post), then go ahead and continue holding vague and general conversations. Specific interests and precise reference words for those—such as “zombie,” “band,” “tattoo,” “literature,” to name a few popular ones—show to be successful. Research shows that most “niche” words have a positive effect on messaging.
Try talking about particular things that interest you or details that you might have in common with your message receiver.