NEW: Sexting.● Talking dirty had one major advantage over sexting—you got to see her response.“Whisper in a woman’s ear that you’d love to see her naked and she’ll probably either stiffen and move away slightly, or giggle and blush,” Kerner says.“Send a subtle but suggestive text to start with,” Kerner says. Never go beyond the level she’s at; otherwise you risk turning her off.” OLD: Dating One Woman At a Time. “If you want to avoid getting a bad reputation, stick to one date a night, don’t contact other women while on a date, and make sure you make a note of who’s who so you don’t use the wrong name,” Kerner says.NEW: Multi-Dating.● Back in the day, there was only one type of steak on every menu: beef. Now you can see as many women as you can fit into your schedule. But read the small print: The same rules apply to women. Besides, if you’re anything like us, you probably don’t look that much like Angelina.
In a phone chat, you’ll get a better sense of whether your personalities click. Note: it’s a bad sign if, during his monologue about his golf swing, you’re checking your watch and praying that you lose your cell-phone signal.Well, now it’s time to dump some obsolete dating rules, too..you want to win. “Most women would probably say they don’t stare at men’s bodies in the same way men do women, but they’re mistaken,” says sex therapist Ian Kerner, author of .Play by these new rules and you’ll score again and again. NEW: Women checking men out.● Think your zipper’s undone? Using eye-tracking technology, scientists from the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction found that women are actually more likely to have wandering eyes than men.DON’T disclose where you live or for that matter, any personal information that could lead to your address, such as your home phone number, last name, or an email address that includes your last name.While most men on the Internet are just as normal as you are, you don’t want Hannibal Lecter ringing your doorbell, even if he’s carrying a box of Godiva chocolates. DO take things slowly, though the chemistry may be magnetic.One of our guy friends salivated over a picture of a pgorgeous, blonde, bikini-clad model.Expecting a Cameron Diaz look-alike, he was shocked to meet a morbidly obese woman in a moo-moo. On the other hand, we’ve dated men who were relieved and delighted that we simply looked like our pictures.We accepted a date with a guy whose head shot looked perfectly human, even normal. For instance: DON’T get taken in by corny, overused come-on lines like, “Looking to spoil the lady of my dreams with flowers and candlelit dinners.” And beware of perfect strangers who promise to “snuggle with you in front of the fireplace” and “enjoy sunset strolls on the beach.” These guys have one thing on their minds. It’s all too easy to scroll through Internet profiles, selecting the Brad Pitt look-alikes and bypassing the rest.In the flesh he could have passed for Dracula, with a mouthful of rotted, brown, pointy fangs. Remember, real men lose their hair and grow love handles, yet if you met them in person, you just might find them charming.Women not only spent less time looking at a man’s face (when compared with men looking at women); they also moved more quickly onto his other body parts. “So take in her breasts or legs, but don’t dwell on them.” And make the most of your assets, too.“Wear well-fitting shirts, and don’t be shy about using your jeans to show off whatever nature gave you.” OLD: Online dating.