Don't think ''nice'' kids aren't exposed to this stuff. It doesn't matter that he's respectful, or that you ''want to go out''. If you absolutely have to go out, they have to come, too. They still need adult supervision, especially when it's just the two of them.If you have to go out, make it sound fun to go with you. If they are kissing and he has his hands on her, do not let them stay in the house. It may feel like you're treating them like little kids, but you're actually treating them like the great but hormone-charged, impulsive-by-nature, not-ready- for-mature-decisions teenagers that they are!! You have to be the grownup Hi-- yes, the kids will do what they want; but--- don't put your child (yes 15 is a child) in the position of making a poor choice.I have never needed to give my kids curfews or social boundaries.They are not goody two shoes, but they do have good commonsense and know what the consequences would be if they screwed up.As a result, I have been able to talk to them more openly about things that come up for them that they need to deal with...like having a friend that shop lifts or a cousin that is sneaking alcohol out of his house...adults set the rules My friend's barely 19 year old daughter is having a baby in March because her mom let her stay home after school unattended. The time she made an exception, I was raped at age 16 by my boyfriend of almost 2 years.
Having good open dialog without being too preachy goes a long way.Tell them they can pick out a snack at the grocery store or you will stop for ice cream. I am sure your daughter is responsible, but in the heat of the moment, one of them may slip up. It's pretty big bs about a safe, clean environment--- you are setting an example for your child and for your daughter's children to come-- I like the parent who said the rule is no visitors-- boy or girl when no parent is home.More than sex, there's drinking, drugs, just plain ''mean girl stuff'', crank calls all sorts of junk!So talk to your daughter about it, see if she feels comfortable with the responsibility.Humor goes a long way for talking about embarrassing things too.Her trust/support meant a lot to me and my sister (and despite the freedom to do so, I didn't have sex until college).Please make sure that your daughter is educated about sex and knows how you feel.But also understand that she is going to make these choices on her own.been in your daughter's shoes Why don't you talk with your daughter privately about it? You should be talking about it anyway because if she has a boyfriend, no doubt the subject has come up between them.I'm sure most people realize this, but the adolescent brain is still forming and growing until about 26-- lots of poor choices, so at least, put a small deterrent in the way!anonymous I know there is a range of parenting styles, but the previous response seemed a little harse.