But the fact is – and this is something I’ve had to learn the hard way – if one of you isn’t calling it a relationship, Then. Yes, I could hang around, try and coax them into it, or just generally refuse to go away until it becomes easier for them to give in – but who wants to do that?That’s like being awarded a relationship through squatter’s rights.One friend (who wishes to remain anonymous lest her non-boyfriend reads this) explains: “I’ve been seeing this guy for four months now – we’re dating and see each other a couple of times a week.However, if anyone refers to me as his girlfriend in front of him, the colour drains from his face.When I asked him if we were going out properly he just said he ‘wasn’t there yet, and wasn’t even sure if he wanted a serious relationship.’ “I don’t want to push it as I have a really nice time with him.I don’t want to come across as some relationship-obsessed harpy and I’m sure once we’ve been seeing each other for long enough he’ll come round – we’re in a relationship in all but name anyway.” I slightly want to bang my head against the keyboard now, not least because I’ve said the same thing more than once in the past.Maybe I’m being old fashioned and just plain unrealistic to think that I should wait for someone who’s actually interested enough to want to chase me, who knows for certain from the out that they want a relationship with me – and who doesn’t need talking into the bloody thing.
He has deleted his Tinder but not – but still has Bumble. But up until that point, you just assume you’re single until he wants to take you off the market. I can’t emphasize how important this is, to make sure you have that conversation because don’t ever assume you’re in a relationship if you have not had that conversation. I think a lot of people will definitely be in some bad shape on going down that particular route.
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Of course, there’s always the chance that I’m (shocker) wrong – maybe eight weeks is far too early to call it – maybe I’m going to miss out on swathes of wonderful, slightly indecisive men who need longer than a couple of months to decide if they want to be in a relationship.
They’ll end up with women much more nurturing and patient than I, who realised that all they needed was a bit of time and gentle guidance.