Here are a few tips:__Be true to yourself.__Forget about him for a second and make sure you know what your needs are (and what it takes to meet them). Up until this point, it was clear that your relationship was just about casual sex.
Say, for instance, that you know that continuing to hook up with your guy without a commitment will make you anxious. If this guy can't give you a relationship that makes you feel happy and secure, then you're better off not continuing things. Now you need to make it clear that your feelings have shifted. Just telling him as it is—that you went into this totally attracted to him and you didn't have any expectations.
Or does he or she text you for the sheer purpose of really interacting with you, without any underlying sexual motives?
In fact, many people choose to be sexually active with others before getting to know them on a more emotional level in order to determine if there’s even sexual chemistry between the two of them.I mean how often do we make plans that don't turn out how we imagined?For example, I thought I would be a lawyer, but I hate arguing and feel bad when someone else loses—a whole other issue.In other words, many people want to know that a fulfilling sexual connection is present before deciding to pursue something more serious and long-term.It’s also interesting to note that those who engage in a casual sexual relationship with another person can end up wanting a more serious commitment because of the time that they spend together right before and/or after their intimate acts.But for the past [amount of time here] you've started to feel more strongly for him and want to know where he stands. After you've let him know how you feel, suggest another time to meet up and chat (ideally, he'll have feelings too and this will be your "first date." Worst case, you can meet casually and have a discussion about moving on and respecting each other's decision—not the end of the world).Assure him that this may be unexpected for him to hear, so you'll let him digest it. Sometimes the reason it's tricky to turn a hookup into a relationship is simply because a foundation of "dating" hasn't been set.If you’re interested in transforming your casual physical connection into something more, there are different steps that you can take right now to see if a serious relationship with this person is in your future.1.Try to determine if your partner is also interested.This is also totally normal and nothing to feel weird about.Now, how to go about this conversation without feeling as exposed and vulnerable as when you dream you show up to work without pants?