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Anyone who's ever had a guy spring their feelings on them out of nowhere knows how flustering this can be.
Whether it's a flirty compliment from a cute barista or a guy who approaches you in the club, according to Figueroa, men who are explicit about what they want are being direct as a way to disarm you.
It takes a certain amount of confidence to engage with someone, rather than flirt with them, to show your interest."So basically, this means guys using this tactic are not only super confident, but are also making it clear to you that this isn't their first rodeo.
Unfortunately, this not-so-obvious flirting style also makes it hard to pin down their true intentions.
It's important to remember that openly flirting doesn't come naturally to everyone.Figeroa agrees that this approach is "hard to read as genuine interest or just general skill at conversation."It's also safe to assume this type of guy means what he says, adds Figeroa, so if he ends up telling you he's interested, then chances are he probably is.If you've ever found yourself hanging out in a dive bar, minding your own business, when out of nowhere you see a guy tap dancing on the bar, he's probably trying to impress someone. And while not taking your self too seriously can definitely be a turn on, more often than not, these men take it a bit far.Most importantly, it builds a bond, Figeroa points out."Bonding builds connections, and connecting with them can help build attraction and show that you're attracted to them," suggests Figeroa.In my opinion, it also seems fair to assume this type of guy is smart because he's using a tactic with a built-in feedback mechanism.Figueroa also notes that when it comes to sussing out what they are looking for, it is worth taking what these guys say at face value."If he's upfront and tells you he only wants to hook up, believe him," says Figueroa.In my darkest hour, I may have even sent the venomous "Are you alive?" text and probably spent the rest of the day running over every detail of every interaction, looking for the smoking gun to prove he was a complete tool from the start.Let's be real: If it was my duty as a man to approach every woman I had interest in, I'd be stressed to the max. There's just something so satisfying about a guy who can use his humor and wit as a way of showing interest.It's fun, it's relaxed, and it's free of the aloofness and overt cockiness men love to dish out by the truckload.