Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist in the Department of Psychology at Harvard University in his blog, the Psychology of Human Sexuality.There are even more resources available beyond the information we’ve summarized in our post, and some excellent books have been written on the subject of being an older woman who is dating or wants to date a younger man.Instead, they settle for less or don’t even try at all.
Those guys tend to earn better wages and therefore be better providers. They’re more cultured and have more world experience. And thinking young women are sexy falls into that category — you have nothing to be ashamed of.Have you considered dating a younger man, but are afraid of getting your heart broken, being humiliated and ultimately dumped for a younger woman? Our culture’s discomfort with reversing the norm of the younger woman-older man dynamic may come from a deep-rooted evolutionary instinct driving women to choose the older, wiser, more powerful alpha male over the untested young buck.Or, it could be caused by something as shallow and immediate as a woman not wanting anyone to mistake her date for her younger brother or, God forbid, her son.Here are some of the ones we recommend: Cougar: A Guide For Older Women Dating Younger Men Don’t Ever Call Me Ma’am: The Real Cougar Woman Handbook Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance Here are some tips to finding and keeping a younger man, who can keep up with your hot, vibrant self: The term “cougar” has a predatory connotation that women don’t want to be associated with.It gives the implication that older women are on the prowl, hunting younger men, known as “cubs”, as if they are prey.However, most women are approached by younger men, not the other way around. By not associating yourself with that term, you will erase any negative feelings toward having a relationship with a man much younger than yourself.Men are attracted to confident women regardless of their age. Younger women tend to have more insecurities as they are still figuring out their place in the world, drawn to dating “bad boys” and are more likely to play games with the men that they date.And they generally have more self-confidence as they know who they are. — When it comes to this subject, older men are painted as shallow horndogs manipulating younger women. But what about all the couples who fall into this category (including my parents) who are in love or married for decades? Are you saying these women are coerced and manipulated into being with these men?Combine women’s desire for a strong, mature man and men’s desire for a young, healthy woman to bear children and it all makes sense. Attraction is an emotion that we can’t help but feel. These women are willingly and happily choosing these men.Those Hollywood actors who have options almost always choose young women.And unfortunately, if they’re leaving their wife, it’s almost always for a younger woman.