You may consider bringing the child a small gift to show your good will and sincere interest in him, such as baseball cards for a collector or new crayons for an aspiring artist.
Don’t bring anything extravagant, which he may perceive as an effort to buy his affection.
If you are providing at least some time when kids can hang out and talk, that’s really all you need to do. Still, typically, there will be some students who are shy or haven’t yet developed the social skills necessary to initiate a conversation with a person of the opposite sex.
So, from time to time, consider including some structured time for kids of both sexes to talk in small groups or one-on-one.
Generally, younger children are more accepting of new relationships. This age is just beginning to understand sexuality, and often preteens have trouble dealing with their own sexuality, let alone the idea that their parents are sexual beings, too.
Although the child at first may refuse to bond with you, over time (maybe even over a year), you can build a relationship.
Parents and youth workers can play an important role in equipping kids to navigate the dating years.
Here are some things we can do: Far too many Christian adolescents don’t have a clue that there is a better way to relate to the opposite sex than what the world shows us. This means that we are called to treat the opposite sex with a special kind of respect because Christ lives within them.
Plan an outing that is fun and that requires minimal interaction.
Children (especially young children) quickly can become attached to someone new and, consequently, may be confused or hurt if the relationship ends.
If your date wants you to meet her son right away, suggest that she introduce you as a friend.
Our kids will be the better for it in the long run!
Youth ministry meetings and events provide great opportunities for kids to work on their opposite sex relationships.