Canon law, however, does require Catholics to live morally and to strive for holiness, which raises the question of whether a divorced Catholic be dating.
Of course it is only natural to want to try to move on from a failed relationship without wading through the lengthy annulment process.
In a practical sense consider trying this simple exercise to discern whether it is the Lord’s will for you to start dating again: Simply close your eyes and pray for the Lord to show you what he wants for your life.
Imagine yourself dating in a general sense, and maybe even with someone specific.
In this type of situation, generally speaking, it is not clear as to whether the marriage will be declared a nullity, but rather such marriages are presumed valid.
This means that the former spouses are still deemed married while the Tribunal investigates to determine whether there was a sacramental marriage.
You may not realize this but getting divorced is actually not a sin.
Divorced Catholics are free to receive the sacraments and have not committed a sin by getting a divorce.
In order to give a clearer answer, we need to address what the Catholic Church teaches about divorce.Keeping in mind that the average national divorce rate for second marriages is around 75%, waiting until the timing is right to consider a new relationship may be especially prudent.The fact that the annulment process can take several years and can be an emotional strain can give you the time you need to heal spiritually and emotionally from the past.Once you are finished – ask yourself – which scenario gives you more peace, which is ultimately what the Lord wants for you.I actually use this technique quite a bit, and it is amazing how once you clear your mind the Lord can really speak to you.Try this every day until you have a clear vision of what the Lord has in store for you.Of course, if it remains unclear about what the Lord wants for you in your life and whether you should be dating, or even whether you should be dating a particular person, I would encourage you to speak to your priest, seek spiritual direction, or ask a Canon lawyer for advice.Regardless of your individual situation, one thing is very clear, we are all called to live chaste lives, whether married, single, or divorced.This means that reflecting on who you are, what your vocation is, and what the Lord wants for you can help you determine if the timing in your life is ripe for dating.This is one of the misconceptions about being divorced.However, the problems arise when the divorced Catholic wants to remarry.